The day you sit down to write your wedding ceremony script is the day that it hits you: for something that can take as little as ten minutes, your wedding ceremony is a wildly important part of your day. After all, the ceremony is when you get married, and the act of marriage is why you’re all there celebrating. If you’re having a religious wedding, your wedding ceremony script is often provided for you by your religious leader and is sometimes quite a bit longer than ten minutes. (Full Mass with Holy Communion? You’ll be there awhile.) If you’re opting for a secular wedding, you’ll probably find that you’re going to need to come up with a wedding ceremony script on your own.

And as it turns out, creating a whole ritual from scratch can be a tad overwhelming. There is a reason that wedding ceremonies have been worked on for generations… it feels like it takes hundreds of years to come up with just the right words. And while you should totally start with our guide to writing a wedding ceremony, these wedding ceremony scripts will help you put all of those ideas into practice.

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We have a whole breakdown on writing your wedding ceremony (and much more detail, plus margins to write in) in A Practical Wedding Planner. But the building blocks of a wedding ceremony generally look like this:

  • Opening and welcome
  • Expression of intent (“I do…”)
  • Readings, hymns, music, prayers
  • An address or a sermon
  • Vows (“For better or for worse…”)
  • Ring ceremony (“With this ring…”)
  • Pronouncement (“I now pronounce you…”)
  • The kiss

While you can include or omit most of these elements, depending on personal taste and preference, in most places you do generally, legally, need to include a declaration of intent. This is what we think of as the “I dos,” or “I do in fact legally want to marry this person, and I’m here by choice.” So as you’re crafting your own wedding ceremony, remember to include that key part.

But when you’re creating your wedding ceremony, plagiarism is key. You can’t do it in a term paper, you can’t do it when you’re writing a book, but when you’re crafting your wedding ceremony, you can steal all the best stuff that everyone else has written. How do you think traditions get started, anyway?

Beyond the scripts below, we have a ton of other ceremony-writing resources here on APW: traditional wedding vows from various cultures and religions, non-cheesy wedding poems, an essay examining what it means to invite the sacred into your wedding, and hundreds of comments in which readers share their own vows. But today we wanted to highlight some of our favorite ceremony scripts from the APW archives, plus share a never-before-published script from our staff (and we’ll hopefully get to read many more scripts from you in the comments).

So to help you craft your own ceremony, we give you these wedding ceremony samples, to get you started.

A wedding ceremony taking place in the woods and using a wedding ceremony script

A Non-Religious Wedding Ceremony Script

This wedding ceremony comes from APW’s Partnerships Director Keriann. She and her husband wanted a poetic ceremony that encouraged audience participation and… that stayed away from religion. Here is her wedding ceremony script, inspired by the best stuff she found on the internet, natch. Her circa 2011 sources included Peonies and Polaroids, Indie Bride, “Union” by Robert Fulghum, and most of the sources mentioned here.


Please be seated.

On behalf of Keriann and Scott, I would like to thank you all for being here this afternoon. For taking the time and making the journey, and for all the effort that it takes—not only to be a part of this day, but to be a part of each other’s lives. Keriann and Scott have invited you here to this beautiful place to show you a glimpse of an important piece of their love. To share with you trails, woodlands, marshes, and beaches, like the ones they’ve often explored during their years together.

Whenever we attend a wedding, we are given the opportunity to reflect on our own relationships. We might look at the couple before us and be tempted to compare their love to the quality of our own relationships. The truth is that every relationship is as unique as the individuals in it, but one thing holds true: For love to exist between two people, each person must allow the vulnerability of giving his or her love to the other, and each must be open to receiving the other’s love in turn. Therefore each of us is a powerful creator of love. Each of us, every moment of every day, has the choice to dedicate ourselves to one another or to withhold our love and caring.

If you ask couples who have a strong and abiding love what they like most about their partners, many will say when they are with that person they don’t have to pretend to be anything other than what they are. They are able to express themselves without fear of being judged or rejected. There is room in the relationship for both of them to be unique individuals. They are free to surrender to the vulnerability of true intimacy—to be known and loved unconditionally.

Remembrances and Acknowledgments

At this time, Keriann and Scott would like to take a moment to honor those loved ones who are not with us today.

Please take a moment of silence.


In the spirit of love and life, Keriann and Scott have selected two readings to share today. The first is “Ithaca” by Constantine Cavafy.

When you set out on your journey to Ithaca, pray that the road is long,
full of adventure, full of knowledge.
The Lestrygonians and the Cyclops,
the angry Poseidon—do not fear them:
You will never find such as these on your path, if your thoughts remain lofty, if a fine
emotion touches your spirit and your body. The Lestrygonians and the Cyclops,
the fierce Poseidon you will never encounter, if you do not carry them within your soul,
if your soul does not set them up before you.
Pray that the road is long.
That the summer mornings are many, when, with such pleasure, with such joy
you will enter ports seen for the first time; stop at Phoenician markets,
and purchase fine merchandise, mother-of-pearl and coral, amber and ebony, and sensual perfumes of all kinds,
as many sensual perfumes as you can;
visit many Egyptian cities,
to learn and learn from scholars.
Always keep Ithaca in your mind.
To arrive there is your ultimate goal.
But do not hurry the voyage at all.
It is better to let it last for many years;
and to anchor at the island when you are old, rich with all you have gained on the way,
not expecting that Ithaca will offer you riches.
Ithaca has given you the beautiful voyage.
Without her you would have never set out on the road. She has nothing more to give you.
And if you find her poor, Ithaca has not deceived you. Wise as you have become, with so much experience, you must already have understood what Ithacas mean.

Next,  an adapted version of Edward Monkton’s A Lovely Love Story, read by two friends.

A: The fierce lobster was trapped by rocks inside a cave. Although it was dark he was happy in there. It was, after all, his cave. Then along came the Lovely Other Lobster.

B: The Lovely Other Lobster removed the rocks that blocked the Lobster’s cage with kind words, loving thoughts, and mighty pincers.

A: I like this lobster thought the Lovely Other Lobster. Although he is fierce he is also tender and he is funny. He is also quite clever though I will not tell him this for now.

B: I like this Lovely Other Lobster, thought the lobster. She is beautiful and she is different and she swims so nicely. She is also a free spirit which is a quality I much admire in a lobster.

A: But he can be so distant and so peculiar at times, thought the Lovely Other Lobster. He is also overly fond of things. Are all lobsters so overly fond of things?

B: But her mind skips from here to there so quickly thought the lobster. She is also uncommonly keen on shopping. Are all Lovely Other Lobsters so uncommonly keen on shopping?

A: I will forgive his peculiarity and his concern for things, thought the Lovely Other Lobster. For they are part of what makes him a richly charactered individual.

B: I will forgive her skipping mind and her fondness for shopping, thought the Lobster. For she fills our life with beautiful thoughts and wonderful surprises. Besides, I am not unkeen on shopping either.

A: Now the lobster and the Lovely Other Lobster are old. Look at them. Together they swim in the sea telling each other stories and feeling the warmth of the ocean on their pincers.

Declarations of Support and Friendship Circle

Keriann and Scott would like to invite you to participate in their wedding celebration through the ritual of the Friendship circle. Anyone who wishes to may now stand and share their thoughts and feelings. Messages may be literal or metaphorical, and about anything appropriate to the occasion—love, family, marriage, life. You may want to offer your blessing, or to share a story about them individually or as a couple. Anyone may stand and speak if so moved—if you would like to speak, please stand as the last person finishes.

Introduction to Vows

Throughout time countless millions of people from many cultures, religions, and societies have gathered among friends and families to celebrate their love for one and other and their commitment to each other. Each culture has symbols and rituals to celebrate marriage, from the Chinese tea ceremony to the Jewish tradition of breaking the glass, a rich tapestry of traditions from around the world combine to symbolize the meaning of marriage. Today we should try to remember that a wedding is a symbol, a heartfelt and meaningful symbol but a symbol nonetheless. This ceremony is not magic, it will not create a relationship that does not already exist and has not already been celebrated in all the commitments Scott and Keriann have made to each other, both large and small, in the days since they first met. What we are celebrating today is not the beginning of a marriage, but a marriage-already-in- progress. This ceremony is a symbol of how far they have come together and a symbol of the promises that they will continue to make to each other throughout live their lives together.

The symbolic vows that you are about to make are a way of saying to one another, “You know all those things we’ve promised and hoped and dreamed? Well, I meant it all, every word.”

Look at one another and remember this moment in time.

Before this moment you have been many things to one another—co-worker, friend, fiancé(e), But now you shall say a few words that take you across a threshold of life, and things will never quite be the same between you. For after these vows, you shall say to the world, this—is my husband; this—is my wife.

Nothing is easier than standing here and saying these words, and nothing is more difficult than living them day to day. When you love someone, you do not love them all the time in exactly the same way. That is impossible. Yet that is what most of us expect. We forget the ebb and flow of life and of love and of relationships. We insist on permanence, on duration, on continuity. But in love, as in life, the only stability is in change, in growth, and in freedom. Therefore what you promise today must be renewed and reaffirmed tomorrow and all the tomorrows to come.

Statement Of Intent

Having considered all of these things, Scott, do you promise to do your very best each day to create a loving, healthy, and happy marriage?

S: I do.

Keriann, do you promise to do your very best each day to create a loving, healthy, and happy marriage?

K: I do.

Now, please declare your wedding vows to each other.


Introduction to Rings

Please take hands. And all of you who love each other, please take each other’s hands as well. To reach out to someone and be acknowledged and loved is a human need. Taking the hand of one who loves you is a powerful symbol of that unspoken bond.

Please take a good look at your partner’s hands, so you may see the gift that they are to you. These are the hands of your best friend, that are holding yours on your wedding day. These are the hands that will work alongside yours, as together you build your future. These are the hands that when wrinkled and aged will still be reaching for yours.

This is the point in the ceremony when people usually talk about the wedding bands being a perfect circle, having no beginning and no end. But we all know that these rings have a beginning. Rock is dug up from the earth. Metals are liquefied in a furnace at a thousand degrees. The hot metal is forged, cooled, and then painstakingly polished. Something beautiful is made from raw elements. Love is like that. It comes from humble beginnings, made by imperfect beings. It is the process of making something beautiful where there was once nothing at all.

Ring Vows

Scott, please place this ring on Keriann’s finger and repeat after me:
“I take you for now and for always, for always is always now.”
S: “I take you for now and for always, for always is always now.”

Keriann, please place this ring on Scott’s finger and repeat after me:
“I take you for now and for always, for always is always now.”
K: “I take you for now and for always, for always is always now.”


No one but you can declare yourselves married. You have begun it here today in speaking your vows before your family and friends, and you will do it again in the days and years to come, standing by each other, sharing the highs and lows of life.

My hope for you is this:

May you have many long years to delight in each other’s company,
and to love and be loved by the friends and family who have come here today to support you.
May you make a home together that is at once sheltering and welcoming.
May you each do meaningful, productive work at home and in the world, learning from your failures and growing in your accomplishments.
May life’s challenges be met together with courage and optimism, and may your days be filled with laughter, imagination, trust, friendship, and love.

As goes an old Irish blessing:

May the road rise to meet you,
May the wind be always at your back. May the sun shine warm upon your face, The rains fall soft upon your fields.
And until we meet again,
May God hold you in the palm of his hand.

Pronouncement and Kiss

It is now my honor and delight to declare you husband and wife—you may seal your vows with a kiss!

Couple getting married by a waterfall and they probably used a wedding ceremony script

a wedding ceremony script for when it’s just the two of you

Liz and Micah eloped while barefoot in the woods, and their wedding ceremony was the stuff of giddy dreams. If you’re looking for wedding ceremony inspiration (and you’re making the whole thing up from scratch), this is a great place to start.

Opening and address

Liz. Micah.

I’m thrilled and honored to be here with my little family to witness, celebrate, and usher in the beginning of yours. It got me thinking about marriage… and what that looks like. In particular, what that will look like for the two of you.

I imagine the marriage between you, Liz, and you, Micah, will look a little something like this:

The most perfect pasta, creamy custard, and buttermilk biscuits. From scratch. With love.

Dreamings over a shared pint of Fullsteam First Frost.

Late night reminiscing and record spinning.

Backyard grilling, planting, and harvesting.

Making a home together… twelve thousand miles from where you started.

May your marriage be a never-ending edit of beautiful vignettes—captured and shared alongside, and with, each other. For as long as you both shall live.

Let’s begin.


L: “Love” by Roy Croft

I love you,
not only for what you are—
but for what I am
when I am with you.

I love you,
not only for what
you have made of yourself—
but for what
you are making of me.

I love you for
the part of me that you bring out;
I love you for putting your hand
into my heaped-up heart
and passing over
all the foolish, weak things
that you can’t help
dimly seeing there,
and for drawing out into the light
all the beautiful belongings
that no one else had looked
quite far enough to find.

I love you because you
are helping me to make
of the lumber of my life
not a tavern, but a temple.

Out of the works of my every day
not a reproach, but a song.

I love you
because you have done
more than any creed
could have done
to make me good.

And more than any fate
could have done
to make me happy.

You have done it
without a touch,
without a word,
without a sign.
You have done it
by being yourself.

M: From The Princess Bride:

Do I love you? My God, if your love were a grain of sand, mine would be a universe of beaches. There has not been a morning when you did not flutter behind my waking eyelids. I have not known a night when your visage did not accompany me to sleep. I have not known a moment in years when the sight of you did not send my heart careening against my rib cage…

I said “as you wish” from the beginning… I loved you from the start.

I love you. Okay? Want it louder? I love you. Spell it out, should I? I ell-oh-vee-ee why-oh-you. Want it backward? You love I…

I love you, Elizabeth.

Officiant: “Union” by Robert Fulghum

You have known each other from the first glance of acquaintance to this point of commitment. At some point, you decided to marry. From that moment of yes, to this moment of yes, indeed, you have been making commitments in an informal way. All of those conversations that were held in a car, or over a meal, or during long walks—all those conversations that began with, “When we’re married,” and continued with “I will” and “you will” and “we will”—all those late-night talks that included “someday” and “somehow” and “maybe”—and all those promises that are unspoken matters of the heart. All these common things, and more, are the real process of a wedding.

The symbolic vows that you are about to make are a way of saying to one another, “You know all those things that we’ve promised, and hoped, and dreamed—well, I meant it all, every word.”

Look at one another and remember this moment in time. Before this moment you have been many things to one another—acquaintance, friend, companion, lover, dancing partner, even teacher, for you have learned much from one another these past few years. Shortly you shall say a few words that will take you across a threshold of life, and things between you will never quite be the same.

For after today you shall say to the world, “This is my husband.” “This is my wife.”

VOws, Expression of Intent, and Ring Ceremony

Liz, pick up Micah’s ring, and repeat after me.

L: Micah, I want to spend the rest of my life with you.

I vow to love and serve you as long as we both shall live.

(Pours Micah a shot)

I take you with all your faults and strengths as I offer myself to you—with all my faults and strengths.

I vow to help you when you need help, and turn to you when I need help.

And with this ring, I take you to be my lawfully wedded husband, my constant friend, my partner in crime, and my love from this day forward.

Micah, pick up Liz’s ring, and repeat after me.

M: Liz, I want to spend the rest of my life with you.

I vow to love and serve you as long as we both shall live.

(Pours Liz a shot)

I take you with all your faults and strengths as I offer myself to you—with all my faults and strengths.

I vow to help you when you need help, and turn to you when I need help.

And with this ring, I take you to be my lawfully wedded wife, my constant friend, my partner in crime, and my love from this day forward.

Pronouncement and kiss

Now that you have given..

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